In the Face of Truth
When I was a young lass of 21, I suddenly developed adult acne. Zit seemed too mild and too cute a word to describe this ghastly eruption of carbuncles, papules and pustules.
My mother wept when she saw what I had transformed into.
Strangers came up and circled around me shaking their heads pityingly.
Children stared and pointed with horrified fascination.
Hardly the reaction any girl just emerging into womanhood hopes to receive. Hardly the reception she had expected from her first foray into the great big world with a heart full of shining hopes and dreams. Hardly the likely heroine to be saved by any knight in shining armour. (somehow all those damsels in distress always still managed to have cream and peaches complexion in the most tragic of surroundings.)
Looking back today from the vantage point of safety, and the quiet assurance that comes with the mellowing of age, it dawned on me that in order to cope with this very sensitive predicament, my young self went into a self-denial mode. To protect myself. To salvage whatever pride that was left to face the world.
I didn’t want to talk about it. I flinched when anyone brought up the subject. I shunned the cosmetic section of the department stores. I even explained it away as a good opportunity to cultivate inner beauty.
I prefered to suffer the indignity of it than to seek help.
Because to think that I was responsible to clear up this diabolical mess was just too stark and too overwhelming for my young, inexperienced self. It was just easier to blame the hormones and the stress of law school.
Now, the thing about not facing up to the truth is that while we think we can keep a blind eye to ourselves, in reality, it is oftentimes glaringly obvious to others. It is literally right in our face and we can’t see it.
Just like the small child standing in full view in an open room playing hide and seek. He drapes a hand towel over his head and thinks that as long as he can’t see, he is safe.
And so it is with our character flaws and blemishes. The little sensitivities and irritations that flare up unbidden. Patterns of wrong-thinking. The games we play. The unconscious motivations behind what we say and do. And all the while we plod along, never once stopping to challenge our assumptions.
In the meantime, we just try hard to cope with the disfigurement by limping through life hoping that no one would notice. Preferring blame and welcoming forgetfulness.
I wrote this post because it dawned on me that this lesson of looking deep into the face of truth is one which needs to happen not once in a lifetime, not once a week, not even daily. But a moment by moment resolve.
The perfecting of character requires the highest commitment and discipline and most of all self-honesty. It is to sanctify our hearts and minds and eyes from the obscuring dust of vain imaginings and idle fancies. It is to carefully correct and rearrange the contents of our hearts. It demands us to see with the highest and purest form of vision. A vision that searches and probes beyond the boundaries of what is familiar.
It is the dying to self in every moment.
Each day that we draw a breath is another opportunity for the transformation of self. Our daily interactions with friends, family members, can all be that mirror to gently awaken us to take a look. I believe this is the real Carpe Diem and what seizing the day is.
Sometimes, I find myself being that young lass of 21 all over again. I’d rather not look. I’d rather not know. I’d rather not rock the boat of my own existence. I don’t want to grow up.
But I also realise that this fear which holds me back is a sure sign that I do not yet own the truth. For fear is the absence of truth. And darkness the absence of light.
And so I open my eyes. And step out from the shadows into the light.
“Would that ye had the power to perceive the things that attest the excellence of your rank, that bear witness to the greatness of your worth, that proclaim the sublimity of your station!
* I took these street art photographs in Penang, Malaysia on my trip back in January 2013. Georgetown is a Unesco World Heritage Site.
What a beautiful and honest post, Sharon. I also have realized that behind fear is resistance, and we resist looking at the truth because we know that deep inner transformation changes everything on the outside too. But there is no need to worry about our ineptitudes, because life is a river that flows to the sea. There’s nothing that we can do to stop the transformation. The resistance is human and par for the course. We aren’t in control. I am so happy you are back. Lots of love Sharon.
Always so good to hear from you Yaz! Thank you so much for your feedback which always make me ponder, reflect and stretch myself that one step further in my own understanding. With warm thoughts, Sharon
Such a sincere and open post, Sharon. You expose your vulnerability in a very touching manner. I wish some teenagers would read your post because you describe so well a problem that so many of them have to face. I also like your very insightful analysis of the problem of facing the “obvious truth”. — After reading your post a poem by Leonard Cohen came into my mind:”Ring the bells that still can ring/Forget your perfect offering/There’s a crack in everything/That’s how the light gets in.”
Oh, and one more thing: fantastic photos!
Thank you so much for your very kind message. I especially love the poem which lines I have been going through with pleasure in my mind. What a beautiful imagery it evokes! And how very precious to remember that a crack is an opportunity for the light to enter…Sharon
A fantastic and honest post Sharon!
“This lesson of looking deep into the face of truth is one which needs to happen not once in a lifetime, not once a week, not even daily. But a moment by moment resolve…”
But Honestly I feel I don’t want to grow up at all…:-)
Thanks for sharing this and nice to have you back with your wonderful posts.
Sriram! I often feel that way too!!! 😀 Sharon
Forgot to mention about the photos !…Fantastic..:-)
This is a compliment I shall cherish 😀 Thank you so much!
I have been there too, dear friend. I have been the young girl refusing to acknowledge there was a problem. Thank you for this post. Your beautiful words touch my soul. You put it out there so beautifully, it seems all so clear to me. So glad (how many times have I said this now 🙂 ? ) that you are back into writing. Hugs.
Haven’t we all! Thank you my dear Piyali. It’s been an absolute pleasure knowing you and your wonderful family. You bless me more than you’ll ever know. Hugs and to the wonderful life of learning, growing, laughing and most of all of meeting friends along this journey. Hugs back, Sharon
It is not necessarily our fault that we develop flaws. Perhaps it’s just the human condition, a part of being on this earth. But as you say, we must face up to those flaws before they can be resolved. Thank you for these lovely words Leaf. The paintings perfectly complement what you wanted to say.
Hello Audrey and a warm welcome here! So very good to hear from you and thank you so much for your feedback. You are absolutely right in that not all our flaws are entirely our own fault. Some things that happen to us are just beyond our control.
But perhaps the only thing that is always within our control is how we choose to respond each time. What we choose to see. How we perceive the problem. And that is something I seem to be learning not just as a 21 year old student but today even as a 42 year old student! A lifetime student of life 😀
Thank you so much for your kind note. I just discovered your wonderful blog and your rich and wonderful heritage. It is a pleasure to get to know you and your excellent writing! Warmest wishes to you, Sharon
You have made an honest and clever analogy, my sweet friend. I think the trick with self improvement is that our own faults are not quite as plain to us as “the nose (or zit) on our face.” Sometimes we need to be open to criticsm and learn to read the reactions of others in order to realize those faults. I think you are correct about the mirror that friends and family members provide, and I think that it is a learning process to be able to see ourselves in that mirror.
As always, you provide very nourishing food for thought.
My best wishes to you, Sharon!
My dear Robin Jean!
I just wanted to thank you for coming over and taking the time to leave me this thoughtful comment. Indeed, so often our weaknesses are not as forthcoming or in the clear line of vision even for our own assessment. And to unravel the mystery of ourselves takes a lifetime and beyond! Always so good to hear from you and I still do think of you each night 😀 Many hugs, Sharon
A really first class post sharon. It is always best to deal with things head on.. I appreciate your honesty and the photos are superb! 🙂
Thank you so much Chillbrook. This comment means so much to me coming from you. Hugs, Sharon
Amazing photos and deep insights into life’s truths. You provide your readers with the perfect blend of images and words to pause, be still, reflect, connect, and learn lessons on living an abundant life. ….THANK YOU.
P.s. I’m not sure I knew this commonality before, but we also both went to law school. The similarities abound, my spiritual sister.
My dear Valerie!
I treasure your presence here. Thank you for taking the time to leave me this note of encouragement. Oh my, and you were also in law school! Yes, it is indeed a good connection knowing that we have shared moments going through tort, contract, jurisprudence and constitutional law 😀 Are you a practising lawyer? Tell me more! Blessings! Sharon
Very powerful post Sharon. I think we constantly have to remind ourselves “to look” and then have the courage to own our reality – change what we can change and accept what we can’t. The photos are fascinating, thanks!
I couldn’t have said it better Tiny. Thank you so much for your thoughts. Hugs, Sharon
Sharon you are a gift to us all! Diane
Well that certainly made my day I can tell you! 😀 Sharon
Beautiful. Simply beautiful.
I am always thrilled to hear from you! Thank you for this heartwarming note. Sharon
Beautifully written essay. The photos are wonderful.
Thank you Pat! I was just over at yours and showing your work to my son who squealed in delight at every shot 😀 Hugs, Sharon
Such an inspirational post Sharon!! Unfortunately we all go through those problems, and we all live in denial every once in a while… I’ve also been gone for more than a month, and I didn’t have the chance to check your blog until now. I am so glad you’re back!! The photographs are amazing!!
I’m so glad to have you back Claudia! And can’t wait to see your new work. I hope the break has been a good one and this New Year be your best one yet! Thank you for coming by. I’m glad you like the photos too! Sharon
Thanks Sharon, it reminds me that
we are going in darkness with our Light,
We are going towards the truth with our Love, M
You have been a gentle mirror for me. With love always, Sharon
If only we could impart such wisdom on the young and let them understand what they perceive is only a hint…and if only we could always remember to be young!
Thank you, once again.
It is good indeed to remember the days of our lives that we might always remember that kindness goes a long way. Thank you. It is always good to hear from you. Hugs, Sharon
Looking at our flaws is not easy but it is necessary work. I also developed adult acne and it was such a nightmare because I was so invested in my looks at the time. I grew from the experience in ways that left a permanent mark on my psyche… Beauty doesn’t last. 🙂
Thank you so much for sharing. I can honestly say that you are one of the loveliest people on the blog and it has made a lasting impression on me. I think that’s the kind of beauty that does last 😀 So much hugs from me! Sharon
This post touched me deeply. Your photos are magnificent and beautifully illustrate your message here. What a gift to be reminded of the importance of self-awareness in every moment. It is my desire and goal in life to be conscious and to know that everything I experience comes from my own beliefs and choices.
Always a joy to hear from you! I admire your commitment to conscious self-awareness. It is indeed apparent in what you say and write. And that is a precious thing indeed. Thank you so much for leaving me this thoughtful note. Sending you love and joy for a new day, Sharon
Thank you for the insights and reminders to notice what we notice, to question our assumptions and beliefs, and to take action when these don’t align in ways that balance and bring peace to our spirits and the energy we offer the world…this is how I heard your song today. 🙂 If you can share how these amazing photographs were created, with the understanding that your artistic essence is yours alone, I’d love to know: they are startling and lovely. Thank you, Sharon.
My dearest Catherine,
Yes, indeed, that was the message I had hoped to convey in this post. To constantly align ourselves to truth. To be discerning of discord and unbalance within and to be able to come to a place of wanting to let in more light. To ultimately realise that we are so much more than what we have come to know and believe of ourselves.
Thank you for taking such an interest in the street art in Penang. I thought you might find this link interesting http://www.onlypenang.com/where-to-go/penang-street-art-wall-painting-at-penang/
I took these photos while taking a trishaw ride through the quaint, narrow streets of Georgetown with my husband and son.These paintings are life size and even larger than life size paintings. To see them in real life really took my breath away. It is rare to see such a realistic capture of innocence and the essence of the Asian child and everyday folk like these. Indeed startling is the word! Thank you Catherine for your wonderful feedback. Always, Sharon
Oh, I love this link. Thank you!
You are so nice… how I loved this post. Thank you, Blessing and Happiness, love, nia
Thank you Nia…Your messages always leave me with a sense of your love and kindness. Hugs and many blessings to you! Sharon
Dear Sharon… what a wonderful post! You have just pointed my day in the right direction. Thank you! James.
That means more to me than you realise James. Thank you so much. Sharon
I so needed this post when I was an adolescent. I suffered from acne too and not only that, my close friends and mother added to the scars (with words that made me feel nonexistent). I love my mother more than words can ever say now that I am grown. I know that she probably was sad and afraid for me in her own way and maybe she dealt with it by hiding behind her mean words. She had strength elsewhere and that’s what I look up to. I not only suffered acne scars but racial scars, I was called dark skin and not liked by my own race, I was bullied…even in my first year of college. I was so shy in high school that I’d walk down the hall hiding my face behind my long wavy permed hair. I spoke to no one. No one spoke to me. I was bullied, tripped down the crowded hallways by a bunch of boys, falling flat on my face while they laughed, and my books that were tightly held in my arms, scattered everywhere. No one helped pick them up…not that I was looking for any (this is just looking back) but it was a lonely experience. There were so many moments like those. I remember them clearly but I try to look at the brighter side of things and I’ve forgiven the people who done those things to me.
“Looking back today from the vantage point of safety, and the quiet assurance that comes with the mellowing of age, it dawned on me that in order to cope with this very sensitive predicament, my young self went into a self-denial mode. To protect myself. To salvage whatever pride that was left to face the world.”
Yes, I was like this. I built an amor around me as I grew into adulthood. It was only when I met my husband and had my first child that the amor came off. Once in awhile now, I can still feel the amor coming out. I think it will always be a battle for me but I’ve begun to accept it and appreciate the great things it has turned me into.
I just wrote a post about my makeup obsession. My acne has scarred my face pretty bad (I had to get on Accutane for adult acne) but I learned to use makeup to hide my facial flaws and to bring attention to my eyes and lips, which I feel are the only beautiful things left on my face. I’ve learned to work with what I have. 🙂
Thank you for such a wonderful post, Sharon, and love the photos.
My dearest Lee,
I sat here for a long time after reading your personal account just quietly thinking of you. Knowing that whatever I write will never take away the wrong and injustice of it all. Thank you so very much for sharing this very deep and personal story here with me. It is a rare and precious privilege when one is allowed to see into a person’s heart.
I am angered by the cruel behaviour and saddened that no one stood up for you. If only kids were taught that being cruel to another is a far worse ugliness than having a physical imperfection. Oh, I wish we could be together right now sharing a cosy corner having a cup of tea together because there is so much to say. So many hugs to share!
But most of all, to throw back our heads and to laugh and celebrate together the great and wonderful story of how our lives turned out and who we have become today!
Because you know, when I see you today and the life you have created, I see only beauty, grace and happiness. Knowing now what you went through only makes me admire you even more. Most of all, it only affirms the depth and unquenchable spirit within you. Some souls wither under such fiery trials while others soar to heights of steadfast love and imperishable beauty.
And you have emerged a far more beautiful woman.
With so much love,
Thank you, Sharon. Your words mean so much to me. I am at a lost for what else to say. I feel so blessed to have met you.
Sharon is back!!!
The ‘metaphor’… we have to face, comes across in every one of our mind/hearts.
Beautiful photos!!! We are scheduled to cruise, to KL 4/7 & Penang 4/8/2014. I would be looking forward to seeing Georgetown’s UNESCO World Heritage Site. Thank you for another treat of mind/heart. Fae.
Oh wow Fae! I got so excited knowing you’ll not only be visiting Malaysia next year, but you’ll be visiting Penang – our most favourite city in the world! 😀 It is also the place where I was born.
Ok, here’s a site I highly recommend. It’s called Rasa Malaysia and I think you’ll enjoy the recipes! But more than that, the author currently living in California is from Penang. Her family back home runs packaged tours which include culinary tours and sightseeing. I’ve heard good things about it. You might want to get in touch with them. I think that way you get to see the best of Penang.
Let me know if there’s anything else I can help you with. Enjoy!!! Sharon
Yes, I know, I am going to your birthplace, a blessed land! 🙂
Thank you for both info. I will go through them and plan. 😀 Fae.
One of the most heartfelt and touching blog entries I’ve ever read. Made more so by the truths pointed out here. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you Steven. That means so much to me. Sharon
Sharon, I love your way. Your deep and thoughtful insights are always so gently and clearly revealed. Just great. Have a wonderful weekend.
Thank you Chris. Your feedback always count so much for me. Sharon
Indeed, it is moment by moment, Sharon. For just when we think we have something clear in our hearts and minds, we are called to look again .. now from this angle, now from that. And we are called to loosen judgment and bring love to each and every situation. When we deny our own thoughts and feelings, it is so much more difficult to make our way in the world, but it is still always about the journey. I, like you, and everyone who visits here, walk the way together, sharing, learning and loving. Happy to be on this path with you.
I treasure your thoughtful comment Jeanne. It sums up our journey and I really couldn’t have put it any better. Thank you so much for writing. Thank you most of all for being on this path together. Have a beautiful day! Sharon
Sharon, as always, you have succeeded in making your readers take a hard “look at the truth.” Self denial–I know it well. My nana used to call it, pretending you don’t see what you know is there. And boy was she right! It takes great courage and strength to rip the veil from our eyes and look. Really look at our “selves” and everything that embodies them. I think life prepares us with the bad and good experiences and hopefully, wisdom is granted as a gift from the gods as we age. The latter assists us in accepting, embracing, and changing all that is within our power to do so. This weekend I shall give this process much thought. And all thanks to you! Hugs! 🙂
Bella, you’ve got a great nana!! 😀 These days we seem to shy away from truth that it’s refreshing to sometimes have those who love us and care deeply for us to just get us to take a good hard look at truth! Ah wisdom…it doesn’t come at a cheap price that one 😀 You are like a ray of sunshine and I always smile with anticipation to your messages. Thank you so much for taking the time to write and to always leave me such personal notes. Thinking of you with a warm heart! Hugs! Sharon
This was beautiful; your words so eloquently stated.
So good to hear from you after such a long break! I thank you for taking the time to come over and leave me this great note. I appreciate it. Thinking of you with warm thoughts. Sharon
Thank you for another delightful post, Sharon. I loved your messages, felt pain and shame as I read about what you went through at that critical age, loved your photographs, and believe there is much wisdom in “Fear is the absence of truth.”
It makes it all the more precious when sharing from the heart to know that I have good, solid support from friends like you. Thank you so much. I am blessed. Sharon
Blemishes that constantly pop up and the reluctance to deal with them is an excellent analogy for our ways. I keep reading in the literature that, even if we work hard on developing full awareness, without a master anyone on the spiritual path is like a spiritual orphan. We can only get so far. Just as we need to get expert advice and treatment for acne, we need a master for our spiritual maladies. Sogyal Rinpoche writes in The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying, “In our tradition we say that three authentics must be present for the nature of mind to be introduced: the blessing of an authentic master, the devotion of an authentic student, and the authentic lineage of the method of introduction.” Of course, it is not easy to find a master, and the master will not appear if the student is not ready. So it is still better to work on oneself than to do nothing. Maybe then the master will appear.
I agree with you most wholeheartedly on this crucial and excellent point you have so accurately highlighted! “Without a master anyone on the spiritual path is like a spiritual orphan.” And that must surely rest the whole foundation of truth.
For without the light of guidance, the seeker will seek in vain. The mirror would be unable to reflect anything. And we are like that mirror. No matter how well we polish that mirror, until and unless we are taught to direct it towards the light, it will never fulfill its potential to reflect. Self-contemplation without a searchlight of truth or a standard of truth ultimately yields nothing. It would be like staring at a mirror in a pitch black room.
I believe we are profound, unlimited, infinite beings – beyond our own capacity to understand at any given point, the depths of the mysteries within us. Thus, we need the guidance from a master who knows more than we do ourselves. One who even knows us better than we know ourselves. Indeed we would need a divine physician for our spiritual maladies.
Ah, your comment has triggered a flow of my own thoughts on this matter as you can see! 😀 Unfortunately, I have not yet read The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying. It is a book which I have been meaning to get and seeing the wisdom of the three authentics only confirms it.
Thank you so much for your thoughts here. I have enjoyed our little discourse together and I look forward to hearing from you again. I have enjoyed getting to know you and your work and I am blessed we met.
With warmest wishes,
Love such real life stories, always the most interesting to read. I have this condition too, but mine is not too bad fortunately.
Happy weekend Sharon 🙂
Hello Aditix! Thank you so much for sharing and it is always so good when you drop me a line. I’m glad all is good with you. Keep in touch ok! Sharon
Thank you Sharon. As I struggle each day with pain, I try to offer it up but it is sometimes difficult. Your words gave me much comfort. The art photos are amazing! There is so much talent in this world, much of which we are never privy to enjoy. God bless, Susan
My dearest Susan,
Thank you so much for writing. My heart is with you. And our thoughts and prayers for you at this time. I understand how difficult it can be. I thought I’d share with you this prayer which I clung on to and helped me through my toughest days.
“Never lose thy trust in God. Be thou ever hopeful, for the bounties of God never cease to flow upon man. If viewed from one perspective they seem to decrease, but from another they are full and complete. Man is under all conditions immersed in a sea of God’s blessings. Therefore, be thou not hopeless under any circumstances, but rather be firm in thy hope.” ~ Abdu’l-Baha
I have never met you and yet I have heard so much about you. Sam glows when he talks about you. Know that you are loved. And we are friends. I hope to hear from you again.
God bless you this day and every day! A tight hug, Sharon
Bless your heart Sharon. The insights you share help us all with our inner growth. I relish turning to your articles as I would reach for one of my well-worn books by treasured teachers helping me along this path of life. The analogy you’ve shared works wonderfully to help get the message ‘home’ for I too (so many of us!) can relate to hiding from our imperfections rather than seeking out the lessons they are here to teach, and how we might best grow from them. Every word in this amazing post sings to me, and this is especially exquisite: “The perfecting of character requires the highest commitment and discipline and most of all self-honesty. It is to sanctify our hearts and minds and eyes from the obscuring dust of vain imaginings and idle fancies. It is to carefully correct and rearrange the contents of our hearts.” I give tremendous heartfelt thanks for you, dear heart, and for the kind wisdom you so beautifully share here.
With deep love and gratitude, your friend, Gina. Namaste.
My dear, dear Gina!
I don’t even know where to begin to express how touched I am by each and every comment you have left me every single time. Your words have the power to stay in my heart and mind a very long time after I have read your message.
And I can only attribute it to the fact that you have taken the time to carefully select your words as if giving a beautiful gift.
I thank you that you found this post useful and that the words spoke to you.
Namaste to you my dear friend. You have touched me more than you’ll ever know. Sharon
This is so beautifully written. I heard your heartache as a young girl trying to deal with the pain of not looking perfect. I so appreciate your sharing this part of your life.
It takes great courage to be present to all that is there on a moment by moment basis. For those who find the courage the reward is freedom of spirit and a peaceful, joyful authentic Self.
Bravo to you for walking your path with honor and bravery. Love and hugs, Brenda
My dear Brenda,
I apologise for this late reply for the kind and beautiful messages you have left me. I sometimes find it difficult to choose the correct words to convey my thankfulness for having met a person like you. Because sometimes words water down the respect and admiration that I have for you. For the choices you have made. The wisdom you have accumulated. The heart you have cultivated. Thank you for your generous spirit. It gives me wings to fly. With love, Sharon
Oh my. I am blown away by your words of support, honor and love. Thank you, Sharon for filling my cup this morning. I respect and admire you also, which is why I follow your blog and read your heartfelt words. Namaste.
Beautiful words…and beautiful photographs of amazing art. Thanks Sharon. 🙂
I adore the penang photos…
Thank you Lakshmi! I think you must have visited Penang before!
Dear Sharon, How could we not follow you? How could we not fall in love with your gentle teachings? How blessed we are in our little blogosphere to hear from one who has died to herself, that she might be wholly devoted to the divine. Thank you for this balm, this blessing. Love, Vivian
My dearest Viv,
It is so very good to hear from you! I think of you often. And wonder how you are doing. I feel your loss deeply because the loss of a loved one is also fresh on my mind. My grandmother passed away in December and we made it home just in time for me to hold her hand for one last time. There isn’t a day I don’t think of her. And so, I just want you to know again how much I appreciate you taking the time to leave me this beautiful note which warmed my heart. I really do. Hugs to you and may your heart be solaced in our friendship. Love, Sharon
Dear Sharon, The love of a grandmother is a very precious gift and the loss of a beloved grandmother marks a new phase in a woman’s life. It is clear that you have chosen to fill that void with the love of the divine. Thank you for sharing with me the deeply personal news of your loss, I will pray for you and for your family during this time.
With the loss of Choko on our hearts, I have been reflecting on other losses, including the loss of my beloved grandmother many years ago, and the gifts that loss brings. I find that loss is comforting because it pries my little mind from the illusion of permanence and control. It is a relief to be made pure and empty again, even through grief.
I would love to know more about your grandmother, should you care to share some of your memories at a future time.
Many blessings, Vivian
I rushed down without reading any of the comments because I knew what they’d say. I prefer not to be reminded any further of that thing that happened that changed me forever, and not really for the better (it happened to you quite late I see, and it’s cool we have it in common). What I really want to say though is these photos are really excellent. Well done indeed, in all phases, processing included. I want to see more. Heck, I want to go to Penang w/my street lens only.
Thank you so much for coming over and leaving me this note. I appreciate so much your honest sharing. And I am glad you understand. Most of all, I want to thank you for your compliments to my photos! Coming from you, I am thrilled beyond words! I’ll be putting up a Penang photoblog next. I really think you’d enjoy Penang!! 😀 Sharon
This is a great post. And I love the pictures. May I ask what you did about the acne? Did it finally just go away?
So sorry for this late reply. Thank you so much for writing. Ok, to answer your question. I finally consulted a dermatologist who prescribed a course of antibiotics (Tetracyline and Terramycin) I was also put on the drug Accutane which I stopped after having adverse side effects – headaches and double vision. I was not too happy to take such strong medication and yet each time I tried to stop, there would be a flare-up.
I had a cousin at that time who also had acne. But one day it cleared up and I discovered that she had gone for a natural detox programme which included a complete change in her dietary habits while incorporating organic vitamins and cleansing of the liver etc. So, I decided to give this a try and switched to what she was eating and I noticed a change.
Basically, the cleansing diet consists of abstaining from all meat products for 3 months. No oil. All foods should be lightly steamed or eaten raw. So, I cut off all fried foods, turned vegetarian. Stopped all sugar. No dairy. No seasoning in foods. Drank only pure filtered water. Start off the morning with a glass of organic apple cider vinegar with a dash of honey in lukewarm water for cleansing.
Sure it took a lot of adjusting but at the end of three months, I not only saw an improvement, I also lost weight and felt great! That was the first time I saw the correlation between diet and skin. And I was vegetarian for sometime until I got married and moved to Finland.
I hope this is useful to you. And I am sure if you google for natural remedies and diets to cure acne, there should be heaps on the net. I have found products which contained tea tree oil and neem (a natural anti-bacterial found in this plant from India) worked well.
Keep in touch and let me know if there is anything I could help you with! Have a great day! Sharon
A moment by moment resolve indeed. I really like this – excellent.
It would be really surprising to find a zit (not even one sounds ‘cute’!!), let alone many. I really like how you’ve ‘processed’ it all.
Please come by my post today, as I have for you a direct question in my post. I would appreciate if you could kindly respond to this question, openly. Sincerely, N.
Thank you so much for coming by. I have visited your post. Took me a while to decide which one you were referring to. So, I await your question. Take care, have a great day and hugs to Daniel. Sharon
Honesty about oneself is rare,
for honesty must have courage to share.
Thanks for sharing. And here’s some encouragement from the Psalms:
“I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
Wonderful are your works;
my soul knows it very well.”
— King David (Psalm 139:14)
I agree with you. Self honesty helps one become a better person and keeps him grounded and real. Your post is lovely as always.
A beautiful and sincere post, Sharon!
I was well into my adult years before I had some breakouts, but overall, it wasn’t that bad…or at least it didn’t bother me that much if they were. Perhaps I would have been more self-conscious had I been a teenager when it happened, but we cannot let the small flaws define us.
Wonderful pictures and I love the colors! Looks like a great place to visit 🙂
Oh I’m sorry my comment was for “The Pearl of the Orient ” post. Sorry, my internet is a little crazy today. Please delete this one.
I have never seen a post with so many replies, and it is no wonder. While I was initially drawn to the incredible photos, when I actually read the words I all the more in awe.
Somewhere along the line we have all had a (pick one) shortcoming, weakness, lack, fault, flaw, problem………to overcome. Your words would help any of us get through those periods of self doubt and shame. Thanks for sharing your words and your photos and I welcome you as a follower on my blog.
Good writing. I read many self-help and personal development books for more learning. Brene Brown’s research is one I often go back to.
Thanks for sharing your writing. And terrific pictures!
Thank you for this post. My heart goes out to you. I have a physical issue that has been very difficult for me to deal with and caused me so much shame. Only recently have I been able to tell someone about it and have it somewhat normalised but it’s still a very painful issue for me. I understand how crippling bodily shame can be.
Ah, denial -such a powerful force.
It is one I wrestle with frequently myself!
wow 🙂 these are so artistic…..amazing pictures!!! Super like 🙂
Wow! What a beautiful, honest and wise post Sharon. I’m glad I found this poking around your site. I love the idea of fear being the absence of truth and that we must keep looking at the difficult aspects of our lives. My little boy doesn’t like the idea, but I feel the truth and yet wrestle with the 2 seeming opposing life philosophies. 1- focus and feed the good/ light instead of trying to fix the problems. 2- Face the fear/ dark/ shadows or they will keep us blocked. I’ve experienced the wisdom of both, so maybe it’s knowing which to do at the appropriate time? Anyway, I loved your post and artsy pictures. Did you use some kind of program on the pics?
Hi there Brad! How very good of you to come by and poke around 😀 I’m really glad you found this post as it was born from a place within that continues to draw me into deep reflection. I love the wisdom of your feedback! How very true that as in all things there isn’t just one single way or method that we can just whip up to address the deep and the sometimes unfathomable beings that we are! I continue to be dazzled and at the same time equally gobsmacked at this journey of self-transformation! 😀 But I guess what I’ve always tried and hope to be open to is always a certain self-honesty. The courage to accept and to change. And the wisdom to know the difference 😀 Thanks so much for the visit. I’ve always enjoyed our little chats. Happy New Year! I’m still working on making that come-back after the Christmas hols and perhaps a tad too many yummy treats! Sharon p.s. I use Picasa to process my photos.
Thanks Sharon, I too appreciate our chats very much! You write with such a sense of honesty, compassion, wisdom or something that resonates for me! I’m delighted to connect and may borrow your wonderful word “gobsmacked”. What a great word and way to view life. You are an inspiration to me. I’ll explore Picasa, I use it too, but haven’t tried much other than cropping.
Thanks for sharing your heart and wisdom. blessings to you and yours, Brad 🙂
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I saw a lot of inspiration by seeing your Photography….great and amazing